Fix #9386: compilers failing to compile with LTO by using variants instead of new + unique_ptr

With std::variant all memory can be figured out at compile time, so the compiler needs to keep track of fewer elements. It also saves out a unique_ptr and its memory management, over a slight impact for resolving a setting.

Codechange: merge guiflags and flags in settings .ini files

It was rather confusing which one was for what, especially as some
SaveLoad flags were settings-only. Clean up this mess a bit by
having only Setting flags.

Codechange: rename SettingGuiFlag to SettingFlag (#9332)

It is a lovely organicly grown enum, where it started off with
GUI-only flags, and after that a few flags got added that can be
considered GUI-only (the GUI disables/enables based on them), to
only have flags added that has nothing to do with the GUI.

So be less confusing, and rename them to what they do.

Additionally, I took this opportunity to rename 0ISDISABLED to
reflect what it really does.